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What are you choosing to put into your life?

What are you willing to let go of in order to allow that to happen?

When will you take the next action step in that direction?

Here’s a quote that speaks to how our soul calls to us:

At this very moment the universe is trying to manifest miracles through your visions, intuitions, and longings. Imagine that your inklings are God's whispers to your heart. The same God that gave you the idea, will give you the means and support to see it through.

The world is being transformed through people like you, who love themselves enough to trust their inner guidance, and relax enough to let the universe take care of the means.

~ Alan Cohen

Midlife: What's "Letting Go" Got To Do With It?

Larry’s death still does not feel real. How could I be talking with him one night and 4 days later he be dead? Larry’s 10 month battle with cancer didn’t happen. Did it?

This has been a year of many deaths for me. Dear friends (and they were my age!) Cherished personal relationships. Business hopes and dreams. Some of the ”deaths” have been shockingly quick and others agonizingly slow. No matter what, I clung to each of them as if I could control their destiny.

Letting go has never been one of my strong suits.

And yet, at midlife especially, that’s exactly what you are called to do. Let go of the roles you’ve been playing, the beliefs and behaviors you’ve outgrown. Midlife is the time to consciously reinvent yourselves for the second half of life, if you want to avoid the bitterness and rigidity of old age. This time, no one else gets to tell you who to be---not parents, employers, spouses, children, friends, cultural expectations. This time it’s between you and your soul.

That’s what Larry stood for. Soul growth. Larry listened to his soul, bravely and boldly moving in that direction, however unpopular or fearful. He was a great teacher for me.

“Larry, how do I know my soul is calling me?” I’d ask. He’d respond with that patient urgency of his-- “Morgaine, you’ve got to quiet down all that busy mind chatter—all that noise in your head that keeps you so wired and tense and busy, busy with crapola. Stop worrying about what other people think. Forget about trying to be impressive. Listen to your heart.”

He continued. “What is it you love to do? Go do it! Take baby steps and start today. And watch for synchronicity---those meaningful coincidences that are the Divine Spirit’s way of being anonymous. They are like green traffic lights telling you to keep moving in this direction. Most of all, practice letting go. Let go of working so hard and forcing the river.

I’ll admit my ego usually didn’t like what Larry told me. A lot of it sounded “airy fairy” and hugely impractical. “Yeah, but, you don’t understand…. Yeah, but, I’m not like you—I can’t just... Yeah, but if I did that I would look like a fool.” Larry just smiled quietly as I recited my litany of “Yeah, but” excuses.

“Let it go” is the voice I hear now, every time I think of Larry.

During Larry’s memorial, held in the magnificent garden he created from his soul, his men’s group presented Larry’s beloved wife Beth with a mottled stone tablet. Years ago, Larry had discovered the stone during an excavation. He loved that stone and called it his book. The men had carved upon the cover of Larry’s stone “book” one of his favorite quotes by Dag Hammarskjold, 2nd Secretary General of the United Nations and a man Larry deeply admired. “We are not permitted to choose the frame of our destiny, but what we put into it is ours.”

Tears streamed down my cheeks and I felt a jolt in my gut when I heard it read aloud. There wasn’t a dry eye in the garden. I believe each of us, in our own way, were hearing a wakeup call from Larry.

What am I choosing to put into my life? What am I willing to let go of in order to allow that to happen? When will I take the next action step in that direction?

Larry, in writing this newsletter, I just realized something! As I let go of the shock and anger at your early death, I’m noticing something new coming in. You’re here with me more than ever. Death and destiny have connected us soul to soul.